A Lesson in Anger Management

NAILS IN THE FENCE

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, 'You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. But It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound will still be there.

A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. How easy it is to lash out verbally in anger and then later regret what you have said. Saying "Sorry" to the person who has been subjected to the rigours of our tongues does not remove the scar that it has caused, although it can lead to forgiveness for what has been said. However, that forgiveness is of little real value unless you learn a lesson from it. When Jesus forgave people He would say to them, "Your sins are forgiven, go and sin no more." If only we were able to follow His instruction what a better place the world would be!